Have you ever felt down in the the dumps for no apparent known reason?
Have you ever thought your well was dry?
Have you ever felt blah and thought you had misplaced your Joy?
There are many reasons why this can be happening. I work with clients who describe these thoughts and feelings. It can be a very depressing and disheartening place to be for sure. Having no real reason to get out of bed, get up, and get moving can leave you wondering, “What’s the point? What’s the use?” My wish is that you know you are not alone in these feelings and experiences and there are helping hands available to you.
No, you’re not crazy or lazy. Be careful not to misjudge down time. This could very well be a time and need to refill your vessel. There are many potential reasons this can be happening. When you become AWARE of any of these happening to you, awesome!! Awareness is key and the first step toward climbing up and out of the downward spiral. In this blog, I will share some of the main common causes.
1) Health related / Down Time
5) Moon Phases
(1) HEALTH — Winter months usually bring more colds, flu, bronchitis, and pneumonia for kids and families which means someone has to give more time and energy out to others helping them back on their feet. You may find yourself eating everything in sight trying to ‘stuff’ more fuel into your body to do everything that needs to be done. Not taking care of yourself during these times and being on the go go go go train can force your body into a pause and a ‘take care of you’ time.
Or you could be waiting for someone or something to come along to fill you back up. So you wait and wait for “that” to happen all the while feeling miserable wondering, “Is this temporary or long term?” “What did I do?” “When will these feelings go away?” If you don’t or won’t take regular downtime to take care of yourself, rebuild your energy, refuel, and refill your well, you could be nudged into it by the Universe. Over time your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health can be compromised. When you neglect one area, it impacts the health of the others.
Supportive Actions — Listen to your body. When you get tired, rest, take a nap, meditate, drink a cup of refreshing tea, close your eyes for a ‘catnap’; call other family members or friends and ask for help; eat well. Velma understands and would love to talk with you about this.
(2) SEASONAL — During the winter months, the scenery changes from lush and colorful plants and flowers to darker colors, brown leaves, leafless trees, and flowerless plants. Having the ‘blues’ is for real. The harsh temperatures keep us indoors for days, weeks, and months at the time. This can doubly impact us because several festive and colorful holiday seasons occur during the winter months. So we have the joyful up with family, friends, parties, and events then we have the let down after the festivities are over and everyone has gone back to their ‘normal’ routines.
Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that’s related to changes in seasons — SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year. If you’re like most people with SAD, your symptoms start in the fall and continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody. Less often, SAD causes depression in the spring or early summer. (Source: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/basics/definition/con-20021047) For symptoms and further information, please the MayoClinic Source link.
Supportive Actions — Light therapy, also called phototherapy where you sit a few feet from a special light therapy box so that you’re exposed to bright light. Light therapy mimics natural outdoor light and appears to cause a change in brain chemicals linked to mood. (Source: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/basics/definition/con-20021047) ; make your environment sunnier; go outside as often as you can; do as much as you can to destress. Although Velma is not a physician nor does she diagnose or treat disease, many of her tools and techniques are very helpful in reducing symptoms.
(3) CONNECTION — When we get busy and are all up in our head, we can become distracted from a social life, we withdraw from family and friends. Some of this is appropriate like going inward for reflection. Other times it creates the feeling of disconnection. We feel alone and no one cares. You may think “no one misses me”. “I don’t matter to anyone. “I don’t make a difference. And you get caught in the downward spiral thinking darker and heavier. It is imperative to refuel and refill your well everyday. Notice your energy throughout the day. some actions require LOTS of your energy, time, attention and focus.
Exercise caution when comparing yourself to others. “I see so and so and everytime I see her or talk to her, she’s always upbeat, positive, cheery, chippery, totally full of joy. She really has it all together.” This judgement and assumption could lead you to believe that that’s how we are all supposed to be all the time. We can look around at people in our lives or on TV thinking they’re always happy, happy, happy and think “Oh, that must be how I’m supposed to be too”, or “I wish I were like them.” But it’s like mowing our lawn…we can’t mow it once and think or wish it will stay that way. We have to continually maintain the look and feel we want to enjoy. We may not want to, but we’ll feel a heck of alot better when we do.
Supportive Actions — Journal your feelings, the positive and negative ones, the light and heavy ones; call a friend and ask for a hug or a safe place for a safe and honest conversation; attend a spiritual group service; yoga; read uplifting quotes and literature; pray; work in the soil to connect with the earth. Have a conversation with Velma.
(4) STRESS — Change, positive and negative, can create stress. Have you ever been so overwhelmed when planning the details for a wedding or once-in-a-lifetime vacation? These examples, as fun as they are meant to be, are also draining and can cause a lack of sleep. Global changes or events happening around the world can send you into a tailspin, like a kite in a tornado. Perhaps you’ve had a recent personal loss of a loved one, or your home or business. Maybe a significant relationship has changed and your family is going through major upheavals due to separation or divorce.
There are times when you have to fake it til you make it. Pull your bootstraps up and put one foot in front of the other and go through the motions. A friend has a great visual for this. It’s like a vehicle stuck in the mud and you have to push it out. Sometimes we just have to get out and push ourselves out of the feelings we are having.
Supportive Actions — meditate; listen to soothing music; ride a horse or walk a dog; take a warm relaxing longer than usual bath; dance; watch a hilarious movie for the umpteenth time; go swimming or boxing. Contact Velma for support.
(5) MOON PHASES — Some people are very sensitive to energy shifts and changes. That may be you! Headaches and “down” moods are symptoms of this. During a full moon you may experience a headache or agitated moodiness. A new moon may bring on the empty feelings and “what am I doing here?” questions.
The Blue Moon occurs when two full moons occur in the same month. The energies can really be cray-cray. You might feel irritated and second guess your past decisions.
Supportive Actions — Journal about your physical symptoms, emotions and mental thoughts specifically before during and after a Full moon and a New moon. You could find your body has been trying to let you know just how sensitive you are. During these times, be easy and gentle with yourself; do activities that are refreshing and restful for you; stay away from high stress people and places as much as possible; go within and journal about what you’re noticing; schedule an appointment to work with someone who is familiar with release work.
We are responsible for filling and refilling our well. There is no magic pill or a one and done ‘thing’ that will ‘cure’ us of the blahs forever. There’s nothing to keep us feeling great and on top of the world every minute of every day. We can’t wish these feelings away. If we try to ignore them for too long, they’ll get louder and stronger to get our attention. We always need to go back to the tools we have available in our life to refuel and refill our well and maintain our level of fulfilment and joy.